While the child is small, all decisions, one way or another concerning him, are made by the parents. They can lead to psychological problems or even health problems.
10. It is unknown for what reason
From a young age, the child constantly hears this phrase. When he stepped on someone’s foot, when he hit another child with a toy, when he pushed, broke, offended. The list goes on and on. There is only one “but”. Very often, a child simply does not understand what an apology is. He does not regret a single drop, but merely repeats the words that his mother demands to say. Before blushing with shame and then yelling at your child, try to explain to him what he did wrong. Tell us why people apologize. Only then will he be able to understand that this is not just an incomprehensible ritual, but a way to establish relations with a person whom he offended.
9. Greet strangers
Parents who make their children say hello to strangers make a very big mistake. Perhaps the grandmothers from the next doorway are not planning anything wrong with your child. And a woman in line at the supermarket. In fact, there are a lot of such people, they molest young children, are touched, treat them with sweets, and talk. Encouraging such communication is very dangerous. The child will think that everyone around him wishes him well. He will safely maintain a conversation with a stranger. But the child is very easy to captivate. Teach children from a young age not to enter into a conversation with strangers, not to take anything from them, not to agree to offers to drive a car. If your child trusts everyone, he might be in trouble.
8. Spend the night where he is uncomfortable
Very often, parents send their child to their grandmother. It is good if the child loves his grandmother, and feels comfortable in her apartment. But it happens that children do not want to stay with their grandmother, cry or have tantrums, but dad and mom still leave them. Of course, parents also have the right to rest, but before sending the child overnight to relatives, ask what he thinks about this. If the child is against, you can ask your grandmother to spend the night with you. In a familiar home environment, it will be easier for a child to endure separation from you.
7. Eat when the baby is not hungry
A small child eats only when hungry. If an adult sits at a table, this does not always mean that he wants to eat. This means that the time has come for dinner, that you need to calm your nerves - there are many reasons, hunger is by no means the main one. Therefore, you should not force a child to eat when he does not want to. Offer him. If refused, remove from the table. When he gets hungry, he will tell you. This rule, of course, does not apply to infants. But the one-year-old is already able to show parents that it’s time to have lunch. You will force, the child may have an aversion to food.
6. Put a child on a strict diet, force to fast or punish with food
Similarly, you can not limit the child to food. If your child is gaining more than normal, and the pediatrician recommends reducing meals, think ten times before doing this. All children are different, everyone needs a different amount of energy. Do not forbid your child to drink sweets or soda. Despite the harmfulness of these products, children simply adore them. Let the child eat them at home in small quantities. Otherwise, all his pocket money will go to prohibited products. Make the right diet for your child and adhere to these rules, sometimes making exceptions. Of particular note are parents who fast. This is their conscious choice, but do not need to keep children on a starvation diet. A growing body needs vitamins and energy.
5. Dramatically change your habits
Do not try to dramatically change your child’s habits, especially if he is very small. A child who is accustomed to sleeping in the parent's bed should not be moved immediately to a separate room. Children are not able to refuse a nipple or a bottle on your order. Everything should happen gradually. It is difficult for an adult to change his life and give up some habits, let alone a child.
4. To be what the child is not
Do not force your child to be who he is not. Perhaps adults sometimes have to hide their emotions under a mask and pretend to be another person. But even for him it is very difficult psychologically. If the child is modest, shy, you do not need to force him to communicate with everyone. And vice versa, a sociable noisy child is driven into the framework of “decent behavior”. Love your child for who he is. Do not emphasize features that you do not like, so as not to develop even larger complexes with him.
3. To do what they do poorly
Allow the child to choose a hobby for himself. Many parents dream that children achieve what they could not achieve. Dad, dreaming of hockey, sends the boy to the hockey school, although the child does not have any abilities to do this. The boy has been going there for a year, but there is no success. Peers laugh, dad scolds. In addition to low self-esteem, the boy will not receive anything. But he has great abilities for music, only this one does not notice. This happens very often. Teach your child not to give up at the slightest difficulty, but if for a long time nothing works, can it be worth changing your occupation?
2. Make friends with someone they don’t like
If adults can be friends with someone who is more beneficial to them, then children, for the most part, are not. They do not care who the parents of his new friend work and whether their car is prestigious. Do not force your child to be friends with the children of your boss or neighbors, simply because it is convenient for you. Let the child choose friends for himself. Even if your close friend has children of exactly the same age, it’s not a fact that they can make friends. Do not insist. If family friendships fail, leave it as it is. Do not force the child to communicate with children who do not cause him sympathy.
1. Lying
First, parents teach the child to lie, albeit in little things, and then grab his head. You send him to open the door when a too talkative neighbor comes. Ask him to say that you are not at home. When the child is late for school because of your fault, you suggest him to lie to the teacher. Soon the child will learn to lie perfectly, he will begin to deceive you too. Lies will become commonplace for him, thanks to you. Then you can’t do anything, neither screaming, nor scandals, nor persuasion will help. Teach your child from childhood to behave in such a way that you are not ashamed of his future behavior.