A correspondence novel requires compliance with certain rules, otherwise it will never go beyond social networks.
Many people make the same mistakes, and your task is not to repeat them, but to learn from them.
Use these rules as an instruction, and the next time you meet someone you like, be sure to apply it.
The rules guarantee that a person will be interested in you, and interest is an important component in any relationship.
10. Pay attention
All people love attention, and if they say that this is not so, then the reason may lie in the uncertainty that someone needs them and is important. When a person feels that someone is truly interested in him, he will never miss such a person from his life.
Your goal is to pay attention to the person you like. This means that you should not write huge texts telling about yourself, but be interested in a person: his affairs, thoughts, opinions, etc.
9. Try to understand
Each of us would like to meet such a person who would understand us without words and accept with all the shortcomings. When communicating with a person you like, do not pretend that you understand, but feel with your soul and heart.
Falsehood is always read, such an attitude towards a person is unacceptable. Try to imagine yourself in the place of this person and understand why he does this, why he says so, etc.
8. Show empathy
If you look at your page, click on “messages” and you see that a person has shared something with you, for example: “Today, melancholy came over me ... I remembered my childhood spent in the village”, and you write back to him: "Hello! I was on the street, there is such a heat ... I need a shower, I will write to you later, "do you think a person will want to wait for this" later? "
He will be unpleasant that you did not speak out on his topic, did not show interest, thinking only about your needs. Do not do this, in addition, try to be “on the same wavelength” here and now.
7. Respect others
Would you be delighted that some people crawl into your life, asking you about your personal life, affairs, occupations, etc.? Most probably not. Therefore, every time you ask tactless questions, put yourself in the place of the person who should answer you.
Everyone loves attention, but nobody likes it when they are interrogated - as if in a courtroom. If you understand that a person does not want to talk about something - smoothly switch to another topic, do not interrogate him.
6. Write correctly
If you write to a person ignorantly and with errors, without thinking about the content of your message, then you automatically make it clear to the person that you do not respect him and his time.
You may think that the message in the spirit: “Priv, I met an old acquaintance, she got better this way ...” is interesting and should be pleasant to your interlocutor, but he will most likely answer you just out of politeness.
Think about why a person needs extra and empty information, what do you want to convey to him when you write something?
5. Be interesting
In your messages, you should not tell everything about yourself in a row, even if the interlocutor asks you questions. It is interesting to communicate with a person who is not disclosed, in whom there is some mystery ...
Many girls make a big mistake - they write big messages to young people in which they tell where they were, what they think about, how they spent the day, what time they arrived, etc.
The person we all know about becomes uninteresting, boring. But with what eagerness we communicate with someone who speaks little and ambiguously ... Of course, we want to tell everyone in the world to the one we like, but do not do this if you need a person.
4. Write messages
If a person has not written you a message, this does not mean that he does not need you. We can never know for sure what is happening on the other person’s soul - maybe he doubts, doesn’t know what he wants, or now he doesn’t have the best period in his life.
Perhaps the person is waiting for you to write to him first, because he believes that he is not interested in you, since you are silent ... The reasons may be different.
Do not be afraid to write the first, but do not write the first all the time - if you have to do this, then you do not really need a person. Face the truth and do not entertain yourself with illusions.
3. Respect Yourself
When communicating with a person you like, do not let him feel that you are more interested in him than he is in you. If this happens, then the person will relax, stop writing first, over time, may even lose interest in you, which was originally.
He must know that you value your time, that you have your own life, and you will not suffer if you lose this person. Self-esteem is above all, and a person should know that you respect yourself, love and value your time.
2. Do not be offended
Grievances and complaints are something that you can afford when you have been living with a person for a long time under one roof, but not with the one you are talking to on a social network.
Nobody owes you anything, just like you don't owe anything to anyone, and if you write such messages: “I was offended, you didn’t write to me”, “If you wanted to, I would have found time”, then the person will want to distance himself from you.
Nobody likes when his freedom begins to be limited. If in your messages you always complain about the fate, life, mosquitoes that attacked you since the beginning of summer, this also will not lead to anything good.
1. Be easy
How do you react to people who are full of worries? Do you want to become their part of life? Most probably not. If you tell a person about your troubles and concerns, it is unlikely that he will be interested in you.
But just one message: “Look how high I have risen!” with an attached photo where you ride a ferris wheel, a person will want to know you better.
We all want to experience pleasure and euphoria (of course, everyone finds it in different things - this is a matter of taste and psyche), no matter how we deny it, if we find someone with whom you can feel the flight, ease and enjoy life - for nothing do not miss such a person.