Every woman wants to be loved. Of course, if she liked him.
For some reason, a man is not at all happy with such a manifestation of feelings, most of them simply disappear. They do not call, do not reply to messages.
A smart girl in such a situation would prefer to forget about this man. She understands that if a man likes a woman, he will do everything to be with her. All the rest will remember the hapless gentleman for a long time, seek excuses for him.
If you find yourself in a similar situation, and your new friend does not take the initiative, do not waste time on it and build castles in the air. Below are 10 false hopes of a woman who is not at all interesting to a man.
10. He is recovering from a bad relationship.
This can be thought of only in one case, if a man broke up with his ex-girlfriend a couple of weeks ago. If this happened long ago, then what kind of mental pain can we talk about? Everything has long been forgotten, and the past is not the reason why he does not want to continue communication with you.
Take off your pink glasses and realize: a man simply does not see in you the one with whom you can build a serious relationship. There can be many reasons. The most common - he is indifferent to you. If he liked you, he would have long sought you and did not even remember his ex.
9. He is afraid of obligations
Men love freedom, and often do not want to bind themselves with a serious relationship. Look around how many “marriages” you see at work, in a cafe, on the street. They, too, loved freedom and were probably afraid to take such responsibility. When each of them met its only one, fear went by the wayside.
Do not console yourself with vain hopes that your man is afraid of a serious relationship. Fear has nothing to do with it; it simply does not want to have anything in common with you.
Of course, your man may be the exception to the rule. In this case, you too can not do anything. This problem can only be solved by a qualified specialist, she is from the category of phobias, and it is not so easy to get rid of it.
8. He is busy with his career.
When a woman wants to calm herself, she thinks that the man has too much work. A girl with good imagination will also be proud of him. Still, because he works for the benefit of the future family, he wants to achieve a certain position in society before starting a serious relationship.
Even the president finds time for his personal life, why can't a man set aside a couple of hours to meet with you? Admit to yourself that he just didn’t like you, and continue to live on. Life is too short to spend on endless expectations.
7. You were too hasty with sex
If it happened that already on the first date you agreed to go to a man "to watch a movie or listen to music", do not scold yourself.
You enjoyed it too, let go of the situation and do not blame yourself for the fact that your relationship did not work out. Probably, he refers to those men who do not need anything from women except sex.
Do not build castles in the air. Do not think that if you refused, you would now try on a wedding dress. Many stories are known when people’s relationships began in bed. This did not stop them from starting a family and becoming happy.
Each situation is individual. What happened to your girlfriend or any other woman will never happen to you, and vice versa.
6. The time has not come yet
Single women to the last hope that it can still work out. “The time has not come yet,” “He will understand that I deserve a better one,” such thoughts sometimes come to every girl who dreams of a family. This is not the last man on earth, let him go.
Do not build illusions. Time is not an excuse. There is no wrong time for love. Feelings are either there or not. Think about the fact that men do not even come to mind. Most guys will not be upset if a woman does not want a serious relationship.
Try to reason like a man: "No, then no." Take care of your life, there are more than enough men around, you are sure to meet someone worthy.
5. He is afraid that he will be hurt
It has already been noted above that men have their own opinions on all issues, which are completely unlike women. The girl naively believes that a man is afraid of a new relationship. He does not want to be abandoned again, he does not want to be rejected and again suffer this suffering.
This situation can be explained very simply - someone is too fond of romantic stories about unearthly beauties and heroes-lovers. In life, this happens very rarely. If a man likes you, he will forget about all his fears and bad relationships.
4. You think that somehow you behaved wrong
If the man did not call after the first date or disappeared a week after meeting, the woman begins to blame herself. She thinks that she "didn’t say that, didn’t do that." Do not forget that all people are imperfect, including your new friend. If something pushed him away, it means that you absolutely do not fit each other.
In most cases, men are quite loyal to careless jokes or “off topic” comments. Stop remembering your conversation for the hundredth time and think what your words were decisive. It will not change anything. This man does not sympathize with you, so stop torturing yourself with unnecessary memories.
3. He thought you were too good for him.
The date was perfect. The man showered you with compliments, and also hinted that you were the woman he had been looking for all his life. Only time passed, but he never appeared again.
You continue to fantasize, now it seems to you that you are too good for him. Most likely, this is not so. Perhaps a man just has this style of communication. He likes to compliment and delight women. With the same success, he flirts with sellers, colleagues and other women, including grandmothers at the entrance.
If a man likes a woman, he will not be stopped by the difference in intellectual level or social status. You cannot scare a real man like that. He will easily get a woman who is higher than him in status.
However, if you are not a Nobel laureate or owner of a large business, do not wear the title of "Miss World", there’s nothing to even talk about.
2. His grandmother / aunt / parrot / guinea pig fell ill
Girls love good men. If a new acquaintance on a date accidentally mentions an old grandmother, aunt, dog, she will think that he had trouble. He cannot call or come, because he takes care of all sick relatives, and he also has a whole zoo of animals. They also get sick.
It sounds absurd, so there is no need to make such assumptions. If desired, a man would find five minutes to call you, even if he was busy.
1. He has too many things to do.
Most women think so, there’s no need to invent anything. If you also think, imagine what things your friend may have. Perhaps he works from morning to night, and then he puts things in order in the apartment, prepares dinner, and does the laundry.
Maybe in your dreams a man does a general cleaning every day or even starts a repair. Do not get carried away, otherwise you will soon begin to think that he is preparing an apartment for your visit.
The man does not want to meet with you. If I wanted to, I would set aside some time even with the busiest schedule. Give up your hopes and forget about it. So you will have a much better chance of a new acquaintance.